Dating is a curious and complicated ordeal. I’m fairly certain almost everyone would agree with that. It doesn’t get easier with age, it is not blissful with youth, and just because you’ve dated in the past does not necessarily make you more prepared for any future prospects down the road.
Now, take all of those difficulties that are associated with the dating game (yes, it’s a game whether we all like it or not) and add the complexities of being a widow. You know, those poor unfortunate souls who already found their soulmate -- their one true love they expected to spend the rest of their lives with. The ones who already felt the intensity of dedicating themselves to another human being. The ones who looked at love without fear and embraced it in every possible way.
How are those beautifully, tragic, fragile little souls supposed to play along in this vicious dating game?
Whether it be a handful of years to a decade or more, for us, the game ended some time ago. Not only do we no longer know how to keep up with it, we have no desire to do so in the first place. We have learned how delicate life is and how valuable time can be. We treasure the moments we get to spend with the people we want to spend them with.
Our heightened awareness of these moments makes them that much more precious. We soak up every ounce of joy in hopes that it will get us through the days to follow. There is no room in our lives to sit staring at blank phones, filled with curiosities of why he has not sent us a message. There is no time to decode the messages that are actually sent. Truly, there is no time for any of the dating hassles or confusions.
So how do these women do it? All women really, but specifically widows. How does any widow manage to find love again?
Clearly, it’s possible. For years, widows have managed to shatter the term “soulmate” in its traditional form, and against all odds were able to once again find the magic that is love with another man. And that, to me, is absolutely incredible for a multitude of reasons. However as a person who has not only watched the struggles widows are forced to bear in the world of dating, but also experienced it first hand, I have come up with a set of guidelines for any man looking to pursue one of these rare and beautiful souls.
As previously published by Thought Catalog, please click the link to read "10 Things To Know Before Dating A Widow".